i just found out today that i had hurt a friend some time back. she asked me about something that meant a great deal to her, and my response was "it's ok". my "ok" was really just a general term, it didn't mean that it was no big deal, it didn't mean that it was bad.. but to her, at that moment, i was a wet blanket.
but being friends, we talked about it and i'm apologetic for being insensitive. however, what happens if it happened between people who hardly know each other? would the consequences be worse? sometimes a single mistake can lead to many changes.. without you even knowing why. sometimes, you don't even know what the mistake was. it could be something you said which you felt didn't have any negative impact, something you did which wasn't meant to hurt.
sometimes being young, you don't think too much about what happens after. however, after going through mistakes, we learn from it. but we must first be told of it.. isn't it? i tend to tell my friends when i'm upset, to let them know how i feel, and why i'm feeling this way. and vice versa. communication.. it's a 2-way thing isn't it?
but there are of course, others who choose not to tell you why. and when you find out, you start thinking to yourself, "hey, i didn't mean it that way! why didn't she ask me?" you get hurt when someone doubts you, when someone wrongs you. and yet, sometimes, you're not given the chance to clarify till it's too late.
mistakes.. it's human nature.
communication.. it takes practice and courage.
to forgive.. it's a decision you make.
to move on.. it's to learn from it and forgive yourself.
_______NEXT POST_______this week i have so many staff to do. and this week have 4 days training! Mon,wed,Thur and this coming sat! well after training 5.30 i did not went home straight... i just wait until its 6+ then went home it is because im so tired after training and my family still wanted me to cook for them! and after that have to do account work like almost everyday! if this still continue happen... it will kill me one of the day!
Oh yah, Limziyun and Tanyixuan yes man your bubble tea! Lol see what a good junior of me climb finish the roof... hahaha